WHAT IS MEDIATION?
Mediation is a voluntary, confidential process in which a neutral third party helps people in conflict have a structured conversation, identify the issues that matter most, and work toward practical, mutually acceptable solutions.
Unlike a courtroom, where decisions are made by a judge, mediation puts the control back in your hands. It allows separating couples to make their own agreements, on their own timeline, in their own words, while preserving respect, privacy, and dignity.
Mediation
vs. Litigation:
A Different
Path
Mediation focuses on communication, collaboration, and
forward thinking. The goal isn’t to “win,” but to create
lasting solutions that work for both parties, especially when
children are involved.
In mediation:
You meet together (or separately, if needed) with a neutral mediator
The mediator does not take sides or give legal advice (though when relevant, he may educate you about the law)
The process is flexible, private, and tailored to your unique situation
Discussions can cover everything from parenting time and property division to support and debt allocation
Once an agreement is reached, the mediator can draft a Memorandum of Understanding (MOU) to support the legal finalization process
What Can Be Mediated?
At Ira Heller Mediation Group, we help clients resolve:
Divorce and legal separation
Parenting plans and custody
schedules
Child and spousal support
Equitable distribution of
marital property
Division of debts, retirement
accounts, and real estate
Post-judgment issues and
modifications
Is Mediation Confidential?
Yes. Mediation is private and confidential. What’s said in mediation typically cannot be used
in court, which makes it a safer space for open and honest discussion.
Is Mediation Right
For You?
Mediation works best for people who:
Want to avoid a long, expensive legal battle
Are open to finding common
ground, even if trust is strained
Value privacy and control
Want to protect their children
from conflict
Are willing to make decisions
with integrity and flexibility
You don’t need to agree on everything to benefit from mediation.
All you need is a willingness to try.
Online
Mediation,
Tailored to
Your Life
All sessions are conducted remotely via Zoom, providing comfort, convenience, and flexibility. Whether you're across the street or across the state, you can participate fully, from wherever you are, on your own terms. When it’s helpful or preferred, in-person meetings can be arranged upon request.
As a trained mediator and an attorney licensed in both
New Jersey and New York, Ira facilitates the process with neutrality, clarity, and respect. While his role is not to offer legal advice or act as anyone’s advocate during mediation, he may, where appropriate, provide general legal information or help clarify how the law typically addresses certain issues. If either party needs or desires specific legal advice, they are encouraged to consult an outside attorney at any time.
Mediator,
Not Judge
What Happens After Mediation?
Once agreements are reached, Ira can prepare a Memorandum of Understanding (MOU)
that summarizes the decisions made during mediation. This document can taken for independent review with an attorney, and used to finalize your divorce or custody matter in court.
Upon request, Ira may also prepare a formal Marital Settlement Agreement (MSA), which,
once agreed to and signed by both parties, can be submitted directly to the court as a
complete resolution of all marital issues.